5 Ways To Live Fearlessly

Living in a perpetual state of stress takes an enormous toll on us, physically and mentally. Fear causes people to not make the wisest decisions because of the mental stress that comes with being in fear. Our attention gets very particular and focuses on trying to find the threats, which can maintain this feeling of being in distress. When we are afraid, fear inhibits us from taking sensible action, because we’re unable to assess the situation precisely.

1. Put you first!

If you don’t understand, then I need for you to understand that everything starts and ends with you. The end goal is to change the opinion that you have of yourself so drastically that you become fearless. Giving you the confidence that you desperately need to navigate through this unforgiving world. To reach your end goal, your starting goal has to begin with your mindset.

Know that you’re worth showing up and showing out for every single day! Put no cap on your fabulousness, even if others would prefer that you put a lid on it.

Everything starts and ends with you. The more you take care of yourself by exercising, eating right, and practicing self-love, the more confidence you'll have in your ability to kick fear in the ass.

Be sure to schedule non-negotiable time for yourself every single day where nothing comes between you and your peace, even if it's just for a few minutes.

Get creative and brainstorm a checklist of 10, no less than 5 self-care alternatives that always leave you feeling fierce and fearless and commit to doing them daily.

Slow and steady wins the race. Take it one day at a time regarding taking care of yourself. Nothing changes overnight, but incrementally second by second you’ll slowly develop to witness a better version of yourself coming into view and you will love what you see.

Self-care rituals like prayer, meditation, exercise, personally I like lavender Epsom salt baths after an intense workout, and 4 am morning prayer, meditations work great for me, it sets the tone and fortifies my mind for the entire day.

2. Own it!

Own what you fear, how can you stand up to what scares you if you keep avoiding and running away from it?  You can overpower your fear by owning it, instead of letting fear own you.

Being consumed with what you fear will paralyze you in a variety of ways, stunting your personal and financial growth unless you change it. Because we don’t want or need those kinds of problems, so you got to face your fear dead on and vocalize that you’re fearful of whatever it is, then get active about doing something about it.

A lot of times people will invoke anger as a defense mechanism because they’re in fear of something. I told a relative who always seems in a horrible mood, that “You’re not scared of being broke! You fear success!”. My dear fake angry relative knows exactly how much of all the determination and commitment it will take to become and stay successful, so said person would rather brood and project their low view of themselves onto someone else because they’re fearing the work to “make it”.

Mainly people are so fearful of failing that they don’t even try to socialize with their peers, elevate their careers, plan healthy intimate partnerships, which is why I say that being fearful connects directly to your self-esteem.

If we deny our negative emotions, they don’t go away, most times these negative emotions can amplify. Other people can often sense them, and we’re more likely to project them onto other people.

Own what you fear, release your negative emotions safely, do nothing that would land yourself in jail or would put you or someone else in the hospital.

My suggestion would be to talk with a friend, mentor, counselor or an elder you trust about your concerns, that usually helps to ease your anxieties pertaining to things and the people you fear. 

3. If your thoughts are not coming from a place of love, they are coming from a place of fear!

  Being consumed with fear was a constant for me, unwilling to challenge myself because I thought I was too “set in my ways”. Ten years ago, I changed my mindset and stopped the self-sabotaging-talk and lived up to my fullest capabilities. I started a fruitful skin care line.

 (TheBeautyofArayaHope.com), began professionally modeling, faced another one of my fears by starting a YouTube channel, and I will launch my self-esteem coaching services sometime next year in 2021.

Fear is like having a fake friend, someone who will never miss the opportunity to tell you the many reasons you couldn't be, can’t be, can’t do, or have anything that you desired. My fear would show up when things were going right just to remind me of all the things I had done wrong in my past.

As I matured, I realized that fear was just an illusion, that I used to keep myself from experiencing pain, and it was something that I always couldn’t control from within.

I stopped holding other people accountable for my shortcomings and started working to change by studying the complexities of the subconscious brain through meditation (that’s a different blog for a later time).

I learned that most of the thoughts we have daily come from the subconscious mind. It's basically a tape recorder loaded with behaviors and beliefs that we formed during childhood. Just like those old VHS tapes, you can change the mind if it's taped over with new and positive material.

I imported more personal and financial development literature into my mind by reading up on anything about those topics. I still read a lot! I became increasingly more fearless as I plowed through the books, because I was learning more and more and my previous perceptions on life shifted for the better, hence, my current decisions.  

4. Control your thoughts! 

It’s ok to think of the worst-case scenario in certain situations to protect yourself from harm. However, you have those people who only think about the worst-case scenarios in their minds; they think preparing for the worst will somehow make them feel better.

When you continue to do that, you just create more anxiety, because the actual situation isn’t creating your fear, but by your thoughts about it is. By imagining the worst that something can happen, we really go through the experience of it happening!

Therefore, you respond as if what you fear is taking place, which leads to unnecessary stress. And the more anxious you are, the more you’re not thinking clearly.

You have fewer cognitive resources when you’re scared, inhibiting you from making sound decisions in that moment. It’s important that you have the mindset of a measured thinker.

5. Manage your fear! 

You manage what you fear by developing a stronger self-esteem, doing this heightens your resilience to fear.  

You’ll be more effective in the actions you take, you’ll bring about the changes you want to see within yourself, because you took a more mindful approach instead of reacting based on your fears at the moment.

Best wishes,

  ArayaHope